Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Envy

Is it normal to envy your best friend? Discuss ways it can be healthy and/or destructive to your friendship.

51 comments:

emily benz said...

I think it is normal to envy your friends since you are all different and you may be jealous of what they have. I think this is healthy since if you werent jealous then you wouldnt be able to share and be different.

Buzby said...

yes, they have different things than you which often includes things you might want so its natural to be a little envious of them, and vice versa.

P.Walsh said...

I think it is normal to envy your friend. Some people dont have talents that others do. Some times people learn new talents from their friends.

-Pat Walsh

Twalsh said...

It is normal to envy your best friend. It is normal to like their style and wish you were that tall or good looking or talented at whatever they are. It is good to look up to your friends and want to be like them because you do learn a lot from your friends. However, it is not normal to envy them so much that it becomes jealousy. Jealousy is never good between friends and can cause tension and fights. Sometimes jealousy even leads to the end of some friendships.

Anonymous said...

I think it can be normal to envy your friends, it depends on how you envy them. It you werent jealous then it would not be a great friendship becuase you and them would be the same.

JKubicsko said...

it is healthy to a certain degree. if you envy them with a passion then you can cause harm to there reputation. They can lose their individuality because you are just a shadow to them.

Anonymous said...

Maybe its normal if you do the same stuff as them like sports but other than that I don't think theres any reason to envy someone because nobody can be just as good or better at everything than another person.
-kevin hock

Samantha C. said...

I also think it is normal to envy you friends in some ways. It is healthy to envy their abilities and wish to be like them. But it is crossing the line when you wish or do bad things to your friends just because your jealousy takes over.

WaveRiderPro said...

I feel that it is ok to envy your best friend and try to be like them but not to the point were it can get annoying to your friend that you do everything they do
Ryan Locks

Dan Spinelli said...

It is normal to envy your best friend because you pick friends that you are interested in, and some people have strengths that others do not.

Marc Santora said...

It is normal to envy your friends because we are all different and you may be jealous of what they have. If you keep envying your friend for a long time, this will probably cause you to not like your friend anymore.

Danielle B said...

i think everyone envys there friends in some way. sometimes it can be good, but if you let your jealousy/envy get in the way of your friendship, then it is bad.

bmart said...

I beleive envy, to a certain extent can be healthy for a realtionship. If two people were exactly the same their friednship would be boring, and envy can drive the lesser of the two people to better themselves.

-Brian Martinico

sammyrep said...

i think that it is normal to envy your best friend a little. sometimes you can get envious if they can do something you can't. it becomes a problem if you begin to envy them a lot. sometimes being envious of a friend can ruin a friendship because it can bring out the ugly side in people. some people become controlled by the envy and they can do things to sabatoge, hurt, or anger eachother.
-samantha repalone

Dan D. said...

To be envious of your friends for a couple things is ok, but once you become obsessed with envy you will eventuly start to be mean and negative to the person. You may loose your friendship. It is natural because they will always have something that you want, that you cant get. Everyone is different in their own way, and chances are you have something they want too.
Dan Dragunat

christina said...

I think it's normal to envy your best friend because of the differences you and your friend may have. It can be healthy if you are able to learn from your friend. However, it may also be destructive if it comes between your friendship and causes fights or even an end to your friendship.
-Christina Cluxton

Anonymous said...

i think envy of your best friend will make you better at some things so you can compare your self to them but it also may make you feel bad because there beter then you

Anonymous said...

I think it is normal to envy your best friend because they envy you in some ways too. If the both of you were equal then it would be boring. No competition. Its normal to be envious just to a certain extent.

Anonymous said...

I think it is normal to envy your friends because they may have talents that you don't have. This can be good because it can inspire you to work hard in order to have a special talent of your own. However, this can be bad if you and your friends try to make each other envious all the time, which could cause fights and friendships to end.

courtney said...

Yes i do think it is normal to envy your best friend because you are with them so much and become so similar yet so different. the littlest things, whether its clothes or boys could make someone jealous of her bestfriend. some things that they have you could want and jealousy just takes over from there. -courtney habberstad


yes, I feel it is normal to envy your bestfriend. Everyone is a little bit different in there own way, and u might want to be more like someone else. Also by being different you can share differnt things or ideas with eachother. On the other hand, jealousy can be unhealthy as well. This is in the case of not being yourself because you wanna be like that other person
- christina amodeo

glenn said...

I think that it is natural to envy someone to a certain degree. If you envy someone too much it can bring out the worst in you and possibly ruin your friendsip. I think that everyone is jealous of someone.

danielle said...

It is normal to envy your best friend. Best friends usually spend so much time together, so that they start getting jealous of one another. You may want what they have or they may want what you have. This is healthy, because life wouldnt be fun if everyone was the same. This way people can share what they have with others.

Alyssa Sadusky said...

It is normal to envy your friends. Envy makes people want to better themselves in order to catch up with their rivals. Therefore it is good to have some healthy compitition.

~Alyssa

scφtt timmel said...

It is normal to envy your friends because your friends, as well as everyone as in the world, all have special talents and abilities which you could be jealous of. Envy can be healthy to your friendship because it allows you to look up to your friends, but it can be destructive because it can cause fighting and cruelty between friends.

Alex Varone said...

I think it's normal to envy your friends, but I believe that it can ruin a friendship if the people that wants to be their friend gets angry enough that they aren't them.
-Alex Varone

Falk owns said...

I think it is some what normal to envy your friends since you know everything about them and are therefore jelious of the things they have or can do. How ever I think it is unhealthy becuas it can only cause a disordely relationship(fights).

Unknown said...

Yes i think its okay to envy your best friend up to a certain extent. I think it is okay to envy them in skills that you might not have, but if you just envy your best friend all of the time it could destroy your friendship.

-Landon Liga

Eric said...

I think it is not normal to envy your best friend, because everyone has something that they can do better then someone else. So there is no point in envying your best friend because it might just end your friendship.

-Eric Zuckerman

Anonymous said...

Being envious of your bestfriend can be considered as not such a big deal in some situations. Then again, jealousy may also lead to hatred even if you are unaware of it. You could be so fixated on trying to be better at a certain thing, that you can lose sight of the things you do value in your friendship, and eventualy do something you may regret.

Unknown said...

I think it is normal to envy your best friend because your aways gonna have some strenghts that your friend doesnt as well as weaknesses. This can be healthy in the way you push yourself to be better and more like the person but it can also be destructive if you get to a point where you completly forget who you are and nothing else matters to you but being better than your best friend.

ashley said...

yes because everybody is different and want different things in life. Also what one might have the other one might want. -Ash Katz

ashley said...

yes because everybody is different and want different things in life. Also what one might have the other one might want. -Ash Katz

ashley said...

yes because everybody is different and want different things in life. Also what one might have the other one might want. -Ash Katz

Kelsey said...

I believe that it is perfectly normal to envy your friend. No one is exactly the same which makes having a friend thats different from you able to experience things from different points of view. I don't think that someone should envy their friend so much that you would want to hurt them, but competition in a friendship keeps it exciting in a way.

Anonymous said...

I think it is pretty normal to envy your best friend, because they are a different personn from you. it can be healthy because you coould learn things from them that you wouldnt have before. but it can destroy a friendship because sometimes people could go overboard and envy them too much and want to be them

Unknown said...

Envy is a good thing to have in a friendship becuase it keeps each person on their toes, trying to be better than the other. This can also be destructive becuase if one friend envys to much and ttys to hard to be better the other person may not want to be friends anymore

Anonymous said...

Its normal to envy your friends because they might have different things than you do or might be better at some stuff than you. However if you envy your friends it can sometimes turn into jealousy which is very unhealthy for a friendship.

Cborriello said...

I think it is normal to be envious of your best friend. It can be healthy because if you are envious of their clothes you could borrow them, and won't be as envious since you wore the outfit. It helps you be different. If you are over envious of your best friend, it could be destructive by getting angry at each, and getting into a huge fight.

Unknown said...

Corin Harmon

I think it's normal to envy your best friend. You can be envious of them because they can do something you can and they can be envious for the same reason.

ride bmx said...

I think it is normal to envy your friends, but I also think it can ruin a relashonship between two friends because envying someone can turn into hateing someone.
-Travis Thornton

Chuck Herrmann said...

I think it is normal to envy your friends because everyone has envy towards someone else. I also think it is perfectly healthy to envy a friend. Without envy a friendship would not be the same. If friends were not envious of each other than they would have to be exactly the same. Envy could also be unhealthy if it turns into jealousy. That could ruin a friendship.

lauren said...

i think it is normal to envy your friends because everyone has at least one thing that you would want and envy . your friend probly envys you to

Unknown said...

Envy is normal but its bad, envy can ruin a friendship because if you get too jealous of what someone has you could start to hate them and not want to be around them

justin distler

crystal j said...

I thnk that it is normal to hav envy with your friends because we are all different. One may have something that the other wants or maybe has askill that the other one can't achieve. But i also believe that their can be a relationshi were then is no envy whtso ever

danielle said...
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danielle said...

I think it is normal to evny your best friend. Of course if they were better than you and for more attention, anyone would be jealous. It i always good to be different, but when it gets to the point when you want to be them and you go over the line of wanting to destroy them and hurt them so you could be better isn't healthy at all. You should be glad for your friends, and always there for them, even if they are better than you. When you actually want to be your best friend and start hating yourself for it, that's very scary.

-danielle mendolia

carly bogart said...

it is normal to envy your best friend. you are always with them all the time you see there flaws and you see the best of them. it is natural to be jealous. it it is healthy but can destroy a friendship if taken to an extreme.

GGAS said...

I believe it is very normal to envy your friends because it is impossible to be perfect. While you can lack in one skill a friend could excel in that skill. So of course you could be envious of them. It is fine and okay for that but when your envy becomes jealousy and there is where problems occur. Envy is normal with friends until it becomes jealouy then maybe its time to find some new friends.
Grant Gaska

Kate said...

well personally it depends on how you look at it.
everyone obviously will envy their friend at some point or another. you wish you had things that they have and probably they will envy you on something that you have and that they do not have. But I do not think it is good to envy your friend enough that it turns into jealousy. once you become jealous of someone, you tend to do and say stuff that you don't mean. Jealousy could lead to things as in fights, and even friendship break up which is never good.

Demonata said...

It is normal to envy your friends since everybody differs from others and it is all right to sometimes be jealous of them. It is healthy as long as it remains constant with feelings such as hppiness or respect for your friend

alyssia said...

Yes I think its normal to be jealous of your bestfriends sometimes cause if we didnt have anything to be jealous of we'd all be the same no body would be different.

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